Then He said to the disciples, “It is impossible that no offenses should come, but woe to him through whom they do come! Luke 17:1
We’ve all been offended, and yes, at times have even caused the offense. In the bible there is more than one way to handle an offense depending on the severity of it. An Offense can be slight at times, in one ear and out the other, or in some instances even overlooked and ignored. In fact Solomon tells us in Proverbs 19:11 that a person who patiently overlooks a wrong is to be respected. Although, we must use wisdom on when to apply this scripture, keep in mind that this piece of advice is a proverb, a generalization and not fit for every situation. We can be sure of that by how Jesus has said to handle an offense.
Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave the way open for [God’s] wrath; for it is written, Vengeance is Mine, I will repay (requite), says the Lord. Romans 12:19
Do not say, “I will recompense evil”; Wait for the Lord, and He will save you. Proverbs 20:22
When we don’t let go of an offense we are then more likely to try to avenge ourselves. We feel that it’s only fair that we do so, you know “an eye for an eye”, and a “tooth for a tooth.” Exodus 21:23-25 That was old testament law. Jesus has shown us a new and better way, in which we take no revenge, but leave it to the Lord for him to repay. It is not good for us to dwell on what someone said or did, or plot ways that we can get even with or pay them back for the wrong they did to us. It is better that we pray to God about the offense and the person who offended us, waiting and trusting that the Lord will save us from the sin that avenging ourselves will lead us to.