1 Corinthians 13:7-8
The book, The Love Dare written by Stephen & Alex Kendrick with Lawrence Kimbrough is also one of the suggested readings blogged about in the past post Love and Marriage. Even better it’s a movie based off this book, Fireproof, it has been out a couple of years and can now be found on DVD. The story has made a big impact with the amazing story it tells of love and transformation. In the movie, the husband who is played by Kirk Cameron, is experiencing challenges in his marriage that seem to be leading to divorce. Before he goes through with it his ask him to put the divorce off for 40 days and read a book called, “The Love Dare” to help him learn the meaning of unconditional love.
For any of you who haven’t taken the love dare and would like the opportunity I am summarizing for you the 40 dares from the book. Prayerfully they will be a blessing to your union whether it is to save a relationship on the brink of divorce, strengthen weak areas you didn’t realize needed attention, or simply make the good even better by developing and practicing unconditional love. As you take each dare be sure to journal your experience throughout the 40 days.
Take the challenge…It’s worth the LOVE
TODAY RESOLVE TO DEMONSTRATE PATIENCE AND SAY NOTHING NEGATIVE TO YOUR SPOUSE AT ALL.
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. -Ephesians. 4:2
Day 2 – Love is kind
IN ADDITION TO SAYING NOTHING NEGATIVE TO YOUR SPOUSE AGAIN TODAY, DO AT LEAST ONE UNEXPECTED GESTURE AS AN ACT OF KINDNESS.
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. -Ephesians. 4:32
Day 3 – Love is not selfish
ALONG WITH RESTRAINING FROM NEGATIVE COMMENTS BUY YOUR SPOUSE SOMETHING THAT SAYS I WAS THINKING OF YOU.
Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. -Romans. 12:10
Day 4 – Love Is Thoughtful
ASK YOUR SPOUSE HOW THEY ARE DOING OR IF THERE IS ANYTHING YOU COULD DO FOR THEM.
How precious to me are your thoughts, God! How vast is the sum of them! 18 Were I to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand—when I awake, I am still with you. -Psalm. 139:17-18
Day 5 – Love Is Not Rude
ASK YOUR SPOUSE TO TELL YOU THREE THINGS THAT CAUSE HIM OR HER TO BE UNCOMFORTABLE OR IRRITATED WITH YOU. APOLOGIZE AND PRAY REGARDING THIS BEHAVIOR.
He who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning, it will be reckoned a curse to him. -Proverbs 27:14
Day 6 – Love Is Not Irritable
CHOOSE TO REACT TO TOUGH CIRCUMSTANCES IN A LOVING WAY INSTEAD OF WITH IRRITATION.
He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city. -Proverbs 27:14
Day 7 – Love Believes The Best
ON A SHEET OF PAPER LIST ALL THE POSITIVE THINGS ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE. LATER DURING THE DAY PICK A POSITIVE ATTRIBUTE FROM THE LIST AND THANK YOUR SPOUSE FOR THAT CHARACTERISTIC.
[Love] believes all things, hopes all things. -1 Corinthians 13:7
Day 8 – Love Is Not Jealous
REJECT ANY THOUGHTS OF JEALOUSY. FOCUS ON THEIR ACHIEVEMENTS AND SHARE WITH THEM HOW GLAD YOU ARE ABOUT A SUCCESS THEY RECENTLY ENJOYED.
Love is strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire. -Song of Solomon 8:6
GREET YOUR SPOUSE WITH A SMILE AND ENTHUSIASM TODAY. LET YOUR GREETINGS REFLECT YOUR LOVE FOR YOUR SPOUSE FROM THIS POINT ON.
Greet one another with a kiss of love -Peter 5:14
Day 10 – Love Is Unconditional
DO SOMETHING OUT OF THE ORDINARY TODAY FOR YOUR SPOUSE BASED ON CHOICE AND NOTHING ELSE. DEMONSTRATE YOUR LOVE TO THEM FOR THE SHEER JOY OF BEING THERE PARTNER.
God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. -Romans 5:8
Day 11 – Love Cherishes
CHOOSE A NEED YOUR SPOUSE HAS TODAY AND MEET IT. EXAMPLE: A BACK RUB.
Husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. -Ephesians 5:28
Day 12 – Love Let’s the Other Win
DEMONSTRATE LOVE BY WILLINGLY CHOOSING TO GIVE IN TO A DISAGREEMENT. TELL THEM YOU ARE PUTTING THEIR PREFERENCE FIRST.
Do not merely look out for your own personal interest but also for the interests of others. -Phillipians 2:4
Day 13 – Love Fights Fair
TALK TO YOUR SPOUSE ABOUT HEALTHY RULES OF ENGAGEMENT. RESOLVE TO ABIDE BY THEM WHEN THE NEXT DISAGREEMENT OCCURS.
If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. -Mark 3:25
PURPOSEFULLY NEGLECT AN ACTIVITY YOU WOULD NORMALLY DO SO YOU CAN SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH YOUR SPOUSE. DO SOMETHING HE OR SHE WOULD LOVE TO DO.
DAY 14 – Love Takes Delight
Enjoy life with the wife you love all the days of your fleeting life. -Ecclesiastes 9:9
Day 15 – Love Is Honorable
CHOOSE A WAY TO SHOW HONOR AND RESPECT TO YOUR SPOUSE THAT IS ABOVE YOUR NORMAL ROUTINE. EXAMPLE: PUTTING AWAY HIS CLOTHES OR HOLDING THE DOOR FOR HER.
Live with your wives in an understanding way…show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life. -1 Peter 3:7
Day 16 – Love Intercedes
BEGIN PRAYING TODAY FOR YOUR SPOUSE’S HEART. PRAY FOR AREAS YOU DESIRE GOD TO WORK IN YOUR SPOUSE’S LIFE AND IN YOUR MARRIAGE.
Beloved, I pray that in all respects you may prosper and be in good health, just as your soul prospers. -3 John 2
DAY 17 – Love Promotes Intimacy
DETERMINE TO GUARD YOUR MATE’S SECRETS AND PRAY FOR THEM AND LOVE IN SPITE OF THESE ISSUES.
He who covers an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends. -Proverbs 17:9
Day 18 – Love Seeks To Understand
PREPARE A DINNER AT HOME AND FOCUS ON GETTING TO KNOW YOUR SPOUSE BETTER.
How blessed is the man who finds wisdom and the man who gains understanding. -Proverbs 3:13
Day 19 – Love Is Impossible
ASK GOD TO CHANGE YOUR HEART AND GIVE YOU THE ABILITY TO LOVE. ASK FOR THE STRENGTH AND GRACE TO SETTLE YOUR ETERNAL DESTINATION.
Let us love one another, for love is from God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. -1 John 4:7
Day 20 – Love Is Jesus Christ
DARE TO TAKE GOD FOR HIS WORD AND DARE TO PRAY FOR SALVATION.
While we were still helpless, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. -Romans 5:6
DAY 21 – Love Is Satisfied In God
BE INTENTIONAL ABOUT MAKING A TIME TO PRAY AND READ YOUR BIBLE. IMMERSE YOURSELF IN THE LOVE AND PROMISES GOD HAS FOR YOU.
The Lord will continually guide you, and satisfy your desire. -Isaiah 58:11
Day 22 – Love Is Faithful
CHOOSE TODAY TO BE COMMITTED TO LOVE EVEN IF YOUR SPOUSE HAS LOST MOST OF THEIR INTEREST IN RECEIVING IT. SAY TO THEM “I LOVE YOU. PERIOD. I CHOOSE TO LOVE YOU EVEN IF YOU DON’T LOVE ME IN RETURN.”
I will betroth you to Me in faithfulness. Then you will know the Lord. -Hosea 2:20
Day 23 – Love Always Protects
REMOVE ANYTHING THAT IS HINDERING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, OR INFLUENCE THAT’S STEALING YOUR AFFECTIONS OR TURNING YOUR HEART FROM YOUR SPOUSE.
[Love] always protects. -1 Corinthians 13:7
Day 24 – Love vs Lust
REMOVE EVERY OBJECT OF LUST IN YOUR LIFE. REPLACE WITH THE SURE PROMISES OF GOD AND A HEART FILLED WITH HIS PERFECT LOVE.
The world is passing away, and also its lust; but the one who does the will of God lives forever. -1 John 2:17
Day 25 – Love Forgives
IF THERE IS ANYTHING YOU HAVEN’T FORGIVEN IN YOUR SPOUSE DO SO TODAY. CHOOSE TO FORGIVE.
What I have forgiven, if I have forgiven anything, I did it for your sakes in the presence of Christ. -2 Corinthians 2:10
Day 26 – Love Is Responsible
PRAY REGARDING YOUR WRONGDOINGS. HUMBLE YOURSELF AND ADMIT THEM TO YOUR SPOUSE AND ASK FOR THEIR FORGIVENESS.
When you judge another, you condemn yourself, since you, the judge, do the same things. -Romans 2:1
DAY 27 – Love Encourages
THINK OF ONE AREA WHERE YOUR SPOUSE HAS TOLD YOU YOU’RE EXPECTING TOO MUCH, AND TELL THEM YOUR SORRY FOR BEING SO HARD ON THEM ABOUT IT.
Guard my soul and deliver me; do not let me be ashamed, for I take refuge in You. -Psalms 25:20
Day 28 – Love Makes Sacrifices
PURPOSE TO DO WHAT YOU CAN TO MEET THE GREATEST NEED IN YOUR SPOUSES LIFE RIGHT NOW.
He laid down His life for us. We should also lay down our lives for our brothers. -1 John 3:16
DAY 29 – Love’s Motivation
BEFORE YOU SEE YOUR SPOUSE AGAIN TODAY PRAY FOR THEM BY NAME AND BY NEEDS. SAY AND SHOW YOUR LOVE FOR THEM AND THANK GOD FOR THE PRIVILEGE.
Render service with a good attitude, as to the Lord and not to men. -Ephesians 6:7
Day 30 – Love Brings Unity
ASK THE LORD TO REVEAL ANYTHING IN YOUR OWN HEART THAT IS THREATENING ONENESS WITH YOUR SPOUSE. PRAY HE WILL DO THE SAME FOR THEM.
Father, keep them in Your name, the name which You have given Me, that they may be one even as We are. -John 17:11
Day 31 – Love And Marriage
MAKE A COMMITTMENT TO YOUR SPOUSE AND TO GOD TO MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE THE TOP PRIORITY OVER EVERY OTHER HUMAN RELATIONSHIP.
A man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. -Genesis 2:24
Day 32 – Love Meets Sexual Needs
IF AT ALL POSSIBLE, TRY TO INITIATE SEX WITH YOUR SPOUSE TODAY.
The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. -1 Corinthians 7:3
DAY 33 – Love Completes Each Other
LET YOUR SPOUSE KNOW THAT THEY ARE INTEGRAL TO YOUR FUTURE SUCCESS. LET THEM KNOW YOU DESIRE TO INCLUDE THEM IN YOUR UPCOMING DECISIONS.
If two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone? -Ecclesiastes 4:11
Day 34 – Love Celebrates Godliness
TODAY VERBALLY COMMEND YOU SPOUSE ABOUT A RECENT TIME THEY DEMONSTRATED CHRISTIAN CHARACTER.
[Love] does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. -1 Corinthians 13:6
Day 35 – Love Is Accountable
ASK GOD TO DIRECT YOU TO SOMEONE WHO CAN BE A MARRIAGE MENTOR. A STRONG CHRISTIAN AND WHO WILL BE HONEST AND LOVING WITH YOU.
Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed. -Proverbs 15:22
Day 36 – Love Is God’s Word
COMMIT TO READING YOUR BIBLE EVERY DAY. IF YOUR SPOUSE IS OPEN TO IT, SEE IF THEY WILL COMMIT TO DAILY BIBLE READING WITH YOU.
Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. – Psalm 119:105
Day 37 – Love Agrees In Prayer
ASK YOUR SPOUSE IF YOU CAN BEGIN PRAYING TOGETHER.
If two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father. -Matthew 18:19
Day 38 – Love Fulfills Dreams
ASK YOURSELF WHAT YOUR MATE WOULD WANT IF IT WAS OBTAINABLE. THEN PRAY AND PLAN FOR MEETING SOME IF NOT ALL OF THEIR DESIRES.
Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart. -Psalm 37:4
Day 39 – Love Endures
WRITE A LETTER OF COMMITTMENT AND RESOLVE TO YOUR SPOUSE. LEAVE IT IN A PLACE THEY WILL FIND IT.
Love never fails. -1 Corinthians 13:8
Day 40 – Love Is A Covenant
WRITE OUT A RENEWAL OF VOWS AND PLACE THEM IN YOUR HOME.
Where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God. -Ruth 1:16
IF YOU ARE SOMEONE YOU KNOW HAS ALREADY TAKEN THE LOVE DARE PLEASE SHARE THE RESULTS OF YOUR JOURNEY WITH US.